You’ve trained yourself to face reality. You’ve trained yourself to tell the truth. You’ve trained yourself to tell it like it is. So in the beginning, these fantasies feel a little inappropriate, because it’s like you’re fooling yourself.
Sometimes people will say, “Well, isn’t this just denial?”
And we say, we hope so! We hope that you are denying the absence that you do not want. And we hope that you are embracing the presence of what you do.
But somehow the idea of denial has become a dirty word to you; like it is virtuous to face the reality of the horror of your own lives.
And we would be ignoring anything that did not please us.
We would get our eyes on what feels good.